Hover the Hell Away From me

There are some people whose entire existence around you feels like surveillance disguised as support. You know the ones… They hover. They monitor. They constantly need updates, details, explanations, access. Not because they genuinely care about your peace, growth, or healing——but because they feel entitled to a role in your story. And that’s the hard truth, some people cannot stand not being involved.

PARASOCIAL MUCH?!

What bugs me the most are those that act like your journey is a GROUP project. Like your personal evolution requires an audience, committee, or commentary section. Every move you make becomes something they feel they should be informed about, consulted on, or emotionally attached to. Can someone scream parasocial! The moment you stop feeding them information, they become restless. Not because they miss you, but because they miss access. That’s the part people rarely talk about.

There are people who confuse proximity with purpose. Just because you crossed paths with me does not mean you were assigned a permanent speaking role in my life. Some people really believe in auditioning for a part in a story that was never written for them. They study your life like they’re preparing for callbacks! Wanting insider details. Wanting relevance. Wanting emotional ownership over chapters they were never meant to enter.

And honestly? Some journeys are supposed to be walked alone.

hovering spirits disguised as concern

Not everything requires explanation. Not every transition needs witnesses. Not every blessing needs spectators. Some things grow healthier in silence. Some doors only open when unnecessary voices are removed from the room. People who are overly invested in your every move often don’t realize how draining their energy becomes. Constant questioning. Constant watching. Constant “checking in” that feels less like care and more like information gathering. Sometimes it feels spiritual almost — hovering spirits disguised as concern. An attachment to your path that becomes unhealthy because they’ve quietly made you the centerpiece of their own lack of direction.

But you are not responsible for giving people purpose through access to your life. You are not obligated to keep people updated just because they became accustomed to front-row seats. Some people need to learn how to move on instead of circling around someone else’s destiny trying to force relevance. And the truth is, when you finally stop over-explaining yourself, stop reporting every move, stop giving people backstage passes to your life — you realize how much peace comes with privacy. Everybody cannot go. Everybody does not need details. Everybody was not assigned a role. Move on.

Until Next Time,

Ash